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I wouldn't call it "political theater", it was much too embarrassing for that. But fascinating (and telling) video nonetheless.
Live your life as if it were made into a book, Florida would ban it.
Ogden, Utard
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"For the record, I took a critical thinking test once and did quite well." - Area lawn dart salesman
"For the record, I took a critical thinking test once and did quite well." - Area lawn dart salesman
Camped out in the (757/948/804)
Camped out in the (757/948/804)
"For the record, I took a critical thinking test once and did quite well." - Area lawn dart salesman
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"If I wanted my balls washed, I'd go to the golf course!"
Dennis - Austin,TX
"For the record, I took a critical thinking test once and did quite well." - Area lawn dart salesman
Attachment theory was once the provenance of psychology 101 lectures and perhaps also the psychotherapist’s couch. But today, the framework’s tidy behavioral-identity labels make it a natural candidate for online virality. Attachment theory has crossed the threshold into Gen Z memedom: In a Vox article published earlier this week, the writer Allie Volpe cited an attachment-theory TikTok that’s been viewed nearly 6 million times. That 37-second clip depicts a woman’s descent through a cascade of imagined worst-case scenarios after she wakes up to find that her boyfriend hasn’t texted good morning—“what dating someone with an anxious attachment style can look like,” the text above her head reads. If the video’s more than 3,600 viewer comments are any indication, the sketch strikes a chord.
This new popularity has brought with it a serious misconception about the framework: Many people seem to believe “that one’s style is set in stone during childhood, determined by connections with early caregivers, and doomed to play out in every relationship thereafter,” Faith writes. But the reality is much more complex.
In 2021, The New York Times attributed attachment theory’s renewed spotlight to the 2010 self-help book Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find—And Keep—Love.(Anecdotally, I can vouch for this book as the catalyst for at least one of my fellow elder-Millennial friends’ recent, enthusiastic preoccupation with the three main types.) But even the book’s authors are inclined to position attachment as more of a fluid tendency than a hard-set trait—as Faith explains, a “working model” that you’re constantly updating:
Amir Levine, a neuroscientist, Columbia University psychiatrist, and co-author of Attached, told me you can think of an attachment orientation as a working model of the world: a set of beliefs that are constantly put to the test. Those beliefs stem largely from the interactions you’ve already had—but your subsequent interactions keep shaping your expectations, which means that your working model can keep evolving.
In an excerpt, published in The Atlantic, from her 2022 book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make—And Keep—Friends, the psychologist Marisa G. Franco elaborated on how our attachment styles can change based on each new relationship that comes into our lives:
We develop our attachment styles based in part on our early relationships with our caregivers … But attachment isn’t all our parents’ fault. Although early experiences with caregivers establish expectations about how we’ll be treated, these expectations likely evolve in other relationships. And they shape those relationships in turn.
None of this is to say that our formative relationships don’t stay with us. Some negative experiences, unfortunately, may stick with us forever. But as Faith points out, they aren’t determinative of our ability to form new connections. She writes, “You’ll likely meet people you can count on, and hopefully you’ll start to believe that you can count on yourself too.”
Quite a Tuesday ride-and I'm only in LEO.
"For the record, I took a critical thinking test once and did quite well." - Area lawn dart salesman
Camped out in the (757/948/804)
I’m sure Marjorie has a lot of black friends!
"For the record, I took a critical thinking test once and did quite well." - Area lawn dart salesman
"For the record, I took a critical thinking test once and did quite well." - Area lawn dart salesman
Large BGE. OONI 16, TOTO Washlet S550e (Now with enhanced Motherly Hugs!)
"If I wanted my balls washed, I'd go to the golf course!"
Dennis - Austin,TX
"For the record, I took a critical thinking test once and did quite well." - Area lawn dart salesman
"For the record, I took a critical thinking test once and did quite well." - Area lawn dart salesman
Camped out in the (757/948/804)