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Divorce Update (For those interested)

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  • DuckDogDr
    DuckDogDr Posts: 1,549
    Good luck. Hope you have a fun trip
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  • steel_egg
    steel_egg Posts: 295
    smbishop said:
    Been there, done that, I call it my previous life.  Life is great for me, remarried, two wonderful children and have not looked back.  I hope everything works out great for you.  Watch out for the rebound affect.  I would suggest to stay low on the dating and just hang with friends for a good long while.  :)

    Been there as well but I wanted to really shine a light on the rebound effect. College friend got divorced after 10 years and 2 kids. Got remarried real quick to the first girl after the divorce. Fast forward 4 years. Going thru second divorce and they had a kid last year. Good luck!   It gets better!
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  • Zippylip
    Zippylip Posts: 4,768
    BrevardAUEgger said:

     I can honestly say that I am so much happier without her and it's only going to get better from here.

    here's the funny part, even as you type that you can't comprehend the depths of how true it is
    happy in the hut
    West Chester Pennsylvania
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  • BrevardAUEgger
    BrevardAUEgger Posts: 31
    So many great responses... @nolaegghead, we can discuss the hookers & blow offline if you'd like haha. In all seriousness I'm going to take my time & be pretty damn picky from here on out. I'll have a little fun (might have already) & focus on my daughter, traveling, & just living life. I feel like a ton of bricks has been lifted off of me & I'm about to really enjoy life again
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  • herbu
    herbu Posts: 125
    BrevardAUEgger said:I can honestly say that I am so much happier without her...
    A couple weeks after my divorce, my boss who knew us both said, "I saw your ex yesterday.  She was driving a brand new Cadillac".

    I said, "I'm not surprised.  I paid for it."

    He said, "It's the best money you ever spent!".

    He was right!  Congrats.  The hard part is over.
    Of all the lies I tell, "Just kidding" is my favorite.

    XLBGE, Jordan Lake, NC
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  • GATraveller
    GATraveller Posts: 8,207
    Just remember......there are worse things than being alone.  Good luck in this next chapter of life.

    "Social media gives legions of idiots the right to speak when they once only spoke at a bar after a glass of wine, without harming the community [...] but now they have the same right to speak as a Nobel Prize winner. It's the invasion of the idiots."
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  • BrevardAUEgger
    BrevardAUEgger Posts: 31
    The hard part is definitely over...It sucked really bad there for a while. Didn't think it would get any better
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  • HofstraJet
    HofstraJet Posts: 1,173
    As the old joke goes "Why is divorce so expensive?"

    Because it's worth it. :smiley:
    Two Large Eggs, 6 gal Cajun Fryer, and a MiniMax in Charlotte, NC - My New Table
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  • BrevardAUEgger
    BrevardAUEgger Posts: 31

    Haha my divorce actually wasn't that expensive...We did uncontested, think it was like $750 for all of it. Beyond that, we pretty much split everything in regards to furniture/TV's/etc. No child support & joint custody. Only thing I will have to pay for is medical, which I am actually going to be paying less for because my company just moved to a system with # of dependents versus a "general family" cost no matter # of dependents.

    The biggest cost has been getting the previous house ready for the renters, deposits on new place, stuff for new place, booze to celebrate me getting my life back B)

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  • sctdg
    sctdg Posts: 301
    edited December 2016
    If you make the mistake of remarrying I have one word of advise Prenup! Been there done that and it was the best move I ever made .If the other party does not like it RUN the other way. Protects both parties and makes things a lot cheaper in the end . Been there done that with second marriage 27 years ago ,been dating ever since and having a ball .Life is real good single . If you get lonely get a dog!
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  • HofstraJet
    HofstraJet Posts: 1,173
    BrevardAUEgger said:

    Haha my divorce actually wasn't that expensive...We did uncontested, think it was like $750 for all of it. Beyond that, we pretty much split everything in regards to furniture/TV's/etc. No child support & joint custody. Only thing I will have to pay for is medical, which I am actually going to be paying less for because my company just moved to a system with # of dependents versus a "general family" cost no matter # of dependents.

    The biggest cost has been getting the previous house ready for the renters, deposits on new place, stuff for new place, booze to celebrate me getting my life back B)

    Consider yourself blessed. I have personally seen horror stories of cheating non-working spouses getting absurd amounts of alimony from the working spouse in the divorce.
    Two Large Eggs, 6 gal Cajun Fryer, and a MiniMax in Charlotte, NC - My New Table
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  • Focker
    Focker Posts: 8,364
    edited December 2016
    HofstraJet said:
    BrevardAUEgger said:

    Haha my divorce actually wasn't that expensive...We did uncontested, think it was like $750 for all of it. Beyond that, we pretty much split everything in regards to furniture/TV's/etc. No child support & joint custody. Only thing I will have to pay for is medical, which I am actually going to be paying less for because my company just moved to a system with # of dependents versus a "general family" cost no matter # of dependents.

    The biggest cost has been getting the previous house ready for the renters, deposits on new place, stuff for new place, booze to celebrate me getting my life back B)

    Consider yourself blessed. I have personally seen horror stories of cheating non-working spouses getting absurd amounts of alimony from the working spouse in the divorce.
    My buddy is going through that now.  Alimony when she was out whore'n it up, while he worked OT on graveyards.

    He flipped out on her lawyer when he demanded payment.  I should have warned him going in.

    To the OP, glad things are on the up and up.  I too, have been enjoying the single life for 6 years or so.  Marriage was a prison sentence.

    Had a hearing recently, child support went up.  
    Next day I sh!t you not, my ex pulls up in a brand new car.  Funny thing is, I wasn't even angry, felt more sorry for her actually.  

    The high road has a nice view, you can see everything.
    Brandon
    Quad Cities
    "If yer gonna denigrate, familiarity with the subject is helpful."

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  • BrevardAUEgger
    BrevardAUEgger Posts: 31
    Wow that sounds terrible. I am blessed! I am definitely excited about the single life for a while too
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  • sctdg
    sctdg Posts: 301
    edited December 2016
    First divorce was before new support laws and I bought what my kids needed ,they wanted for nothing but the b!tch got no alimony and could not use support money to live the high life . Second divorce had prenup and in the end legal fees were $300 for 5 minutes in court . Best $300 I ever spent . The day second wife left because we had no kids it was like getting rid of bad cold . As she drove away cracked open a beer walked down the street and hung out at my buddies shop as he was welding and feeling a lot lighter and did I mention HAPPY. I mentioned to my friend she left and all he said was COOL . Yes it was !!!!
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  • frognot
    frognot Posts: 103
    Best of luck in 2017! Went through a divorce in 1983 so been there, done that. Lots of good advice posted.
    Allen, Texas          LBGE, Orange Thermapen (fastest and easiest to find)



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  • MJG
    MJG Posts: 616
    sctdg said:
    If you make the mistake of remarrying I have one word of advise Prenup! Been there done that and it was the best move I ever made .If the other party does not like it RUN the other way. Protects both parties and makes things a lot cheaper in the end . Been there done that with second marriage 27 years ago ,been dating ever since and having a ball .Life is real good single . If you get lonely get a dog!
    My one word of advice is vasectomy. Best 10 quid I ever spent. 
    Large Big Green Egg in a nest. North Shore of Boston.
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  • evie1370
    evie1370 Posts: 506

    Been there done that too. Amazing the relief when you get out of a bad situation. I was miserable for years but didn't realize it till he left-it was the best thing he ever did for me. Till this day I marvel as to why I put up with his crap for over 9 years.

    Now married to current hubby for 22 years, he is the best person I have ever known. I agree with the others-easy on the dating for now. You may not realize it but you need the time. From someone who has been there..

    Good luck buddy!

    Medium BGE in Cincinnati OH.

    "

    "I don't know what effect these men will have upon the enemy, but, by God, they frighten me. " Duke of Wellington, Battle of Waterloo.
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  • RRP
    RRP Posts: 26,466
    This wine bottle label makes a lot of sense!

    Re-gasketing the USA one yard at a time 
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  • SemolinaPilchard
    SemolinaPilchard Posts: 1,282
    MJG said:
    sctdg said:
    If you make the mistake of remarrying I have one word of advise Prenup! Been there done that and it was the best move I ever made .If the other party does not like it RUN the other way. Protects both parties and makes things a lot cheaper in the end . Been there done that with second marriage 27 years ago ,been dating ever since and having a ball .Life is real good single . If you get lonely get a dog!
    My one word of advice is vasectomy. Best 10 quid I ever spent. 
    10 quid? when did that take place, 1903?  :o
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  • nolaegghead
    nolaegghead Posts: 42,109
    SemolinaPilchard said:
    MJG said:
    sctdg said:
    If you make the mistake of remarrying I have one word of advise Prenup! Been there done that and it was the best move I ever made .If the other party does not like it RUN the other way. Protects both parties and makes things a lot cheaper in the end . Been there done that with second marriage 27 years ago ,been dating ever since and having a ball .Life is real good single . If you get lonely get a dog!
    My one word of advice is vasectomy. Best 10 quid I ever spent. 
    10 quid? when did that take place, 1903?  :o
    That's slang for a pound in a country called "England".  It is in Europe.  Like a buck is a dollar.
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  • SemolinaPilchard
    SemolinaPilchard Posts: 1,282
    Thank you Mister Condescension. I have been there. 10 pounds equals roughly 14 dollars I believe. Of course maybe he got snipped over there, and maybe it is much cheaper there (here is where you insert comments about how greedy the corporations are here in 'Murica).
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  • nolaegghead
    nolaegghead Posts: 42,109
    You're welcome! 
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  • JohnInCarolina
    JohnInCarolina Posts: 34,851
    SemolinaPilchard said:
    MJG said:
    sctdg said:
    If you make the mistake of remarrying I have one word of advise Prenup! Been there done that and it was the best move I ever made .If the other party does not like it RUN the other way. Protects both parties and makes things a lot cheaper in the end . Been there done that with second marriage 27 years ago ,been dating ever since and having a ball .Life is real good single . If you get lonely get a dog!
    My one word of advice is vasectomy. Best 10 quid I ever spent. 
    10 quid? when did that take place, 1903?  :o
    I don't know for sure but it's possible that's simply about what it costs under the NHS.
    "I've made a note never to piss you two off." - Stike

    "The truth is, these are not very bright guys, and things got out of hand." - Deep Throat
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  • HofstraJet
    HofstraJet Posts: 1,173
    SemolinaPilchard said:
    Thank you Mister Condescension. I have been there. 10 pounds equals roughly 14 dollars I believe. Of course maybe he got snipped over there, and maybe it is much cheaper there (here is where you insert comments about how greedy the corporations are here in 'Murica).
    I had a urologist friend do it for free. Wonder if insurance would have covered it?
    Two Large Eggs, 6 gal Cajun Fryer, and a MiniMax in Charlotte, NC - My New Table
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  • nolaegghead
    nolaegghead Posts: 42,109
    HofstraJet said:
    SemolinaPilchard said:
    Thank you Mister Condescension. I have been there. 10 pounds equals roughly 14 dollars I believe. Of course maybe he got snipped over there, and maybe it is much cheaper there (here is where you insert comments about how greedy the corporations are here in 'Murica).
    I had a urologist friend do it for free. Wonder if insurance would have covered it?
    I'm pretty sure it's covered because: a) it's not women's reproductive health care and b) it's a hellova lot cheaper than maternity care/delivery and c) I know some people who got it done under their insurance policies.

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  • MJG
    MJG Posts: 616
    edited December 2016
    SemolinaPilchard said:
    MJG said:
    sctdg said:
    If you make the mistake of remarrying I have one word of advise Prenup! Been there done that and it was the best move I ever made .If the other party does not like it RUN the other way. Protects both parties and makes things a lot cheaper in the end . Been there done that with second marriage 27 years ago ,been dating ever since and having a ball .Life is real good single . If you get lonely get a dog!
    My one word of advice is vasectomy. Best 10 quid I ever spent. 
    10 quid? when did that take place, 1903?  :o
    Ha. 2001. Done stateside and covered by insurance. Wife had to sign off on it. Too many lawyers. 
    Large Big Green Egg in a nest. North Shore of Boston.
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  • r2davis65
    r2davis65 Posts: 148
    Good luck and keep grinding. 
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  • Eggcelsior
    Eggcelsior Posts: 14,414
    r2davis65 said:
    Good luck and keep bumping and grinding. 
    FTFY
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