phonological dyslexia

ryantt

 I know it's completely off-topic but does anyone have any experience with dyslexics. My wife and I were blindsided with the news that they want to check our daughter for dyslexia. We are confused she has great grades(o's). I know she is only in  kindergarten but has never appeared to struggle.  Occasionally she swaps b and d for each other or even p or q, but didn't think much of this as she's only just turned 6.   Anyony with first hand knowledge of testing process we'd appreciate the help/  feedback 

cazzy

My daughter is Dyslexic and is doing great (now a freshman).  She was diagnosed in the 2nd grade and was taught ways to work around it.  It's not the end of the world and it's good that it's caught early.  

They're usually given extra time on tests, but will be not need to be in any special classes.  Again...she will be taught early on how to manage it and those focused lessons won't return unless she struggles.  Good luck...I'll shoot you my cell via PM in case you have any questions.

cazzy

Oh...I recall that she was given a special test to confirm it.  Don't remember all the details but again, not a terrible thing.  She will learn to process letters and numbers a lil different.  The following year after being diagnosed...my daughter only missed one question on the state exam and received an award for her effort.  She loves to read just like any other teenager...oh and she's mean and a hermit like any other teen too.

It will all be good bruh!!

ryantt

That's very  encouraging.  My wife and I feel bad that we missed this, but she's always done will in pre k and grades this year have always been o's which is the equivalent of an A.  So we are  perplexed, they feel strongly that this is a possibility.  They've stated that all of the reading they do she seems to have memorized and is not actually reading anything.  Still feel like I've failed her if this turns out to be the case.  Don't know how I could have missed it. 

DMW

Don't blame yourself, things like this are difficult for parents to notice, as you see your daughter every day. An outside observer will notice things you don't as it has developed with everything else about your little one.

We didn't notice my son's ADHD. Which I certainly should have, as I was diagnosed as an adult and have progressed from medication to having a job where I can deal with it without meds.

Seriously, don't blame yourself, just be glad it's been diagnosed and has been identified.

cazzy

ryantt said:

That's very  encouraging.  My wife and I feel bad that we missed this, but she's always done will in pre k and grades this year have always been o's which is the equivalent of an A.  So we are  perplexed, they feel strongly that this is a possibility.  They've stated that all of the reading they do she seems to have memorized and is not actually reading anything.  Still feel like I've failed her if this turns out to be the case.  Don't know how I could have missed it. 

Dude...relax.  No way you failed her.  Sounds like she figured out how to cope on her own and is working harder to process things.  She will be taught how to live with it and won't have to work harder to keep up.

She probably had no idea what was going on and being 6...likely didn't care either.  Her teachers are professionals and see 25 kids learn on a daily basis.  It's easy for them to identify one that is learning and processing things differently.

Ease up on yourself...y'all are fine.

ryantt

@DMW and @cazzy thank you both for the  encouragement...

Scottborasjr

At that age it is better to attack a perceived problem then ignore it. When my son was first evaluated for school we were told that he would never have a meaningful conversation in his life. After another year he was diagnosed as an Aspergers child.  He is a fully functioning child that does have his quirks, but tests off the charts in everything except for reading comprehension.  Which is more a focus issue then a question of him retaining things.  

He is nearly ten now. Is the best speller in his class and is a social butterfly. Let them do what they feel is necessary and ride it out. It is far from the end of the world and in no way sense or form have you failed her in anyway. 

If after another month or two you feel that they are short changing her in any possible way, seek another opinion and go another way.

Trust me I went through the same thought process that you are going through right now, but with the right information and assistance, I'm sure 99.9 percent of the world will never know unless you and her want them to. 

cazzy

Scottborasjr said:

At that age it is better to attack a perceived problem then ignore it. When my son was first evaluated for school we were told that he would never have a meaningful conversation in his life. After another year he was diagnosed as an Aspergers child.  He is a fully functioning child that does have his quirks, but tests off the charts in everything except for reading comprehension.  Which is more a focus issue then a question of him retaining things.  

He is nearly ten now. Is the best speller in his class and is a social butterfly. Let them do what they feel is necessary and ride it out. It is far from the end of the world and in no way sense or form have you failed her in anyway. 

If after another month or two you feel that they are short changing her in any possible way, seek another opinion and go another way.

Trust me I went through the same thought process that you are going through right now, but with the right information and assistance, I'm sure 99.9 percent of the world will never know unless you and her want them to. 

Exactly.  It is not anything we even think about at this point and not something I've even thought about for a few years.

ryantt

@Scottborasjr   I'm  thankful that your son is doing well. Also thanks for your willingness to share, it's encouraging for my wife and I.

We are just shocked she's always done well in school. Her grades are good and she recently won an elementary school bible quiz.  I guess she's got a fantastic memory.  Her teacher said she seems to recognize the pages and can recite the entire thing from memory. 

Scottborasjr

Yeah, they said that my boy was doing stuff from memorizing as well when it came to certain things.  Which I always questioned what the problem was. I guess when I was in school memorizing was a good thing and now it is frowned upon?....

I realize that it is two completely different diagnoses, but one thing that we have fought with the school is the desire for him to use multiple processes to come to the same conclusion.  If he comes across a method that works for him, why force him to attempt to do other methods? It does confuse him and make for more work for both us and the teachers.  

I do my best to accept that the teachers are using methods that they see as proven as the best way for the masses to learn, but sometimes, especially when they are first dealing with the child, it can be an issue. 

Probably the biggest thing is to maintain an open line of communication with anyone involved in your child's education.  My experience has been hit and miss with certain people in my son's school.  But as long as you stay involved with it you can't go wrong.

Skiddymarker

SWMBO has been an Orton Gillingham certified therapeutic tutor for years, she is currently mentoring and supervising prospective tutors. She says testing is good, best to know rather than have it simply passed over as it often was in the past. If you want to talk send me message, she would be glad to talk with you and your wife.

texaswig

They finally figured out that I had dyslexia in high school.  My reading comprehension was terrible. After school I started reading more. I figured out that I liked reading non-fiction /informational type stuff. I'm not the best speller in the world. I'm fine with it I just don't enter myself in spelling bees. My wife is a special education teacher and is the most patient person I know. So I'm sure if my almost 3 year old son takes after Dad she'll be able to help. Take her to the library /book store. Make a big deal out of it. So if your super excited she will be. If she grows up loving books it'll help more than anything. 

Jeepster47

@ryantt ... all good advice above. 

Be sure to thank the folks who brought the concern to your attention.  They did your daughter a great favor.  One that will have a positive affect on her future.

ryantt

@Jeepster47 agreed we are  grateful, just have to figure out all of the next steps. The school my daughter goes to is very small 65 kids k-12 and said they don't have a lot to offer.